Reached for: Babies (II)
“Small things are safe to love. Nothing small has ever hurt me.”
Affection is routed toward whatever is little and charming, since that is the only arrangement holding all of the power and none of the exposure. It was set by a family that kept a child small deliberately, because a child who stays small stays home and stays manageable. What it asks for is one attachment to an equal.
Ganymede, carried up to the gods and held forever at the age he was taken, prized exactly for not growing. The form implies a task of ageing out of the role that made one valuable.
- Essence
- The Perennial Child
- Rule
- I was kept small, so only the smaller are safe
- Substance / Activity
- Babies, cuteness, small and helpless things
- Archetype
- Ganymede
- Emotional theme
- Fear of adult exposure
- Behavioural pattern
- Love directed only where the power differential is total and safe
- Family dynamic
- Infantilisation used to keep a child at home and without power
- Core wound
- I was kept small, so only the smaller are safe
- Exit
- One relationship entered on level ground
What is the "Reached for: Babies (II)" pattern?
Affection is routed toward whatever is little and charming, since that is the only arrangement holding all of the power and none of the exposure. It was set by a family that kept a child small deliberately, because a child who stays small stays home and stays manageable. What it asks for is one attachment to an equal.
What does "Reached for: Babies (II)" sound like when it shows up?
Small things are safe to love. Nothing small has ever hurt me.
What is the archetypal form of "Reached for: Babies (II)"?
Ganymede, carried up to the gods and held forever at the age he was taken, prized exactly for not growing. The form implies a task of ageing out of the role that made one valuable.
This is a pattern. Not a verdict.
It appears in many lives.