Reached for: Olives (Black)
“I expect the good life to come to me, smooth and lavish, because being the special one was how I was raised.”
It shows up as an expectation of abundance, a want for the good life with a minimum of stress or deprivation and a sense that the world owes a living, a loving and a lavish, installed by being treated as special within an enmeshed family. The expectation is sincere; the enmeshment that fed it never let the person find their own separate footing. What it asks for is to meet the world as a separate adult, not the family's special one.
Little Lord Fauntleroy, the sweet, adored boy for whom fortune and affection simply arrived, raised so entirely as the special one that a life without that cushion was unimaginable. The form implies a task: to stand as a plain adult, unspecial and one's own.
- Essence
- The Perennial Child
- Rule
- I was the special one, so the good life is simply owed to me.
- Substance / Activity
- Abundance, the smooth and lavish good life
- Archetype
- Little Lord Fauntleroy
- Emotional theme
- Entitlement from enmeshed specialness
- Behavioural pattern
- Abundance-seeking on the sense that the world owes a living, a loving, a lavish
- Family dynamic
- Being treated as special within an enmeshed family
- Core wound
- I was the special one, so the good life is simply owed to me.
- Exit
- Meeting the world as a separate adult, not the family's special one.
What is the "Reached for: Olives (Black)" pattern?
It shows up as an expectation of abundance, a want for the good life with a minimum of stress or deprivation and a sense that the world owes a living, a loving and a lavish, installed by being treated as special within an enmeshed family. The expectation is sincere; the enmeshment that fed it never let the person find their own separate footing. What it asks for is to meet the world as a separate adult, not the family's special one.
What does "Reached for: Olives (Black)" sound like when it shows up?
I expect the good life to come to me, smooth and lavish, because being the special one was how I was raised.
What is the archetypal form of "Reached for: Olives (Black)"?
Little Lord Fauntleroy, the sweet, adored boy for whom fortune and affection simply arrived, raised so entirely as the special one that a life without that cushion was unimaginable. The form implies a task: to stand as a plain adult, unspecial and one's own.
This is a pattern. Not a verdict.
It appears in many lives.