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Reached for: Rabbits (I)

When someone looks at me properly, I'll go anywhere with them.

Attention that resembles love is followed wherever it shows up, with judgement suspended for the duration and the same disappointment arriving reliably at the end. The susceptibility was built by acceptance issued on conditions, leaving a standing question about whether the person underneath is lovable at all. What it asks for is one stretch of time in which that question is not put to anybody.

The Archetypal Form

Clytie, turning her face to follow the sun across the sky each day until she took root where she stood. The form implies a task of looking at something other than the light.

The Algorithm
Essence
Earned Worth
Rule
Whether I can be loved has never been settled
Classification
Substance / Activity
Romantic attention, new love, being chosen
Archetype
Clytie
Emotional theme
Doubt about one's own lovability
Behavioural pattern
Compulsive pursuit of romantic attention, with judgement suspended each time
Family dynamic
Acceptance granted conditionally throughout childhood
Core wound
Whether I can be loved has never been settled
Exit
Going a while without submitting the question to anyone
Frequently asked
What is the "Reached for: Rabbits (I)" pattern?

Attention that resembles love is followed wherever it shows up, with judgement suspended for the duration and the same disappointment arriving reliably at the end. The susceptibility was built by acceptance issued on conditions, leaving a standing question about whether the person underneath is lovable at all. What it asks for is one stretch of time in which that question is not put to anybody.

What does "Reached for: Rabbits (I)" sound like when it shows up?

When someone looks at me properly, I'll go anywhere with them.

What is the archetypal form of "Reached for: Rabbits (I)"?

Clytie, turning her face to follow the sun across the sky each day until she took root where she stood. The form implies a task of looking at something other than the light.

This is a pattern. Not a verdict.
It appears in many lives.