Reached for: Saccharine
“When this is finished, and it's good enough, then things will be different.”
Love is handled as a wage, with achievement stacked up on the belief that a sufficient quantity will finally release it. The arrangement came from parenting that never once issued a passing grade, so effort took the place of affection and the standard kept its distance. What it asks for is an hour of pleasure taken without having earned it.
Psyche, sorting the seeds and fetching the water, handed one impossible task after another for the right to be accepted. The form implies a task of stopping before the list is finished.
- Essence
- Earned Worth
- Rule
- I have not yet done enough to be loved
- Substance / Activity
- Artificial sweetness, achievement, proof of worth
- Archetype
- Psyche
- Emotional theme
- Love treated as earnings
- Behavioural pattern
- Compulsive achievement and romantic proving, pursued in place of receiving affection directly
- Family dynamic
- "Never good enough" parenting with a standard that always moved
- Core wound
- I have not yet done enough to be loved
- Exit
- Taking something sweet without a justification attached
What is the "Reached for: Saccharine" pattern?
Love is handled as a wage, with achievement stacked up on the belief that a sufficient quantity will finally release it. The arrangement came from parenting that never once issued a passing grade, so effort took the place of affection and the standard kept its distance. What it asks for is an hour of pleasure taken without having earned it.
What does "Reached for: Saccharine" sound like when it shows up?
When this is finished, and it's good enough, then things will be different.
What is the archetypal form of "Reached for: Saccharine"?
Psyche, sorting the seeds and fetching the water, handed one impossible task after another for the right to be accepted. The form implies a task of stopping before the list is finished.
This is a pattern. Not a verdict.
It appears in many lives.