Reached for: Vegetarianism
“There's a right way to do this that I haven't found yet, so I'm not committing to anything until I do.”
It shows up as a search for the flawless solution, a purity of approach held out against a childhood family that made everything wrong, so that landing on any actual choice risks being wrong again. The seeking looks like high standards; underneath is a deflection of responsibility and a distrust of one's own verdict. What it asks for is to make one ordinary imperfect choice and stand on it.
The Flying Dutchman, condemned to sail on in search of a harbor he can never quite make, the perfect landfall always one more storm away. The form implies a task: to drop anchor in an imperfect port.
- Essence
- Untrusted Judgment
- Rule
- My judgment was never allowed to be right, so I keep looking for the answer that can't be faulted.
- Substance / Activity
- Purism, the perfect approach, the flawless solution
- Archetype
- The Flying Dutchman
- Emotional theme
- Distrust of one's own verdict, from being made wrong
- Behavioural pattern
- Anti-analytic seeking of the perfect solution; activity-avoidance and responsibility-deflection
- Family dynamic
- A wrong-making family whose standards were never met
- Core wound
- My family made everything I did wrong, so I keep hunting the one flawless choice that finally can't be faulted.
- Exit
- Making one imperfect choice and standing on it.
What is the "Reached for: Vegetarianism" pattern?
It shows up as a search for the flawless solution, a purity of approach held out against a childhood family that made everything wrong, so that landing on any actual choice risks being wrong again. The seeking looks like high standards; underneath is a deflection of responsibility and a distrust of one's own verdict. What it asks for is to make one ordinary imperfect choice and stand on it.
What does "Reached for: Vegetarianism" sound like when it shows up?
There's a right way to do this that I haven't found yet, so I'm not committing to anything until I do.
What is the archetypal form of "Reached for: Vegetarianism"?
The Flying Dutchman, condemned to sail on in search of a harbor he can never quite make, the perfect landfall always one more storm away. The form implies a task: to drop anchor in an imperfect port.
This is a pattern. Not a verdict.
It appears in many lives.
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