Carried: Gastric By-Pass (Stapling off part of the stomach to lower food intake)
“I was starving for love, so I fed the hole with food, and even taking the food away didn't touch the real hunger.”
It shows as a desperate hunger for love that became a hunger for food, comfort eaten in place of the affection that never came, so that even when the eating is forcibly stopped the true starvation remains, and grief and depression rise where the food had been. The appetite was never really for food. It traces to early emotional abandonment. What it asks for is to bring the actual hunger, for love, to a place that can begin to meet it.
The prodigal son, who having spent everything found himself starving among the pigs, longing to be filled with anything and remembering, at last, a house where he was loved. The form implies a task: to turn back toward the love one is actually starving for.
- Essence
- The Unfed
- Rule
- I was starving for love, so I fed the hole with food, and the real hunger stayed.
- Body zone
- Hunger for love displaced onto food
- Archetype
- The Prodigal Son
- Emotional theme
- A desperate, unmet hunger for love
- Behavioural pattern
- Eating for solace; profound deprivation when the substitute is removed
- Family dynamic
- Early and ongoing emotional abandonment in childhood
- Core wound
- I was starving for love, so I fed the hole with food, and the real hunger stayed.
- Exit
- Bringing the real hunger, for love, to a place that can begin to meet it.
What is the "Carried: Gastric By-Pass (Stapling off part of the stomach to lower food intake)" pattern?
It shows as a desperate hunger for love that became a hunger for food, comfort eaten in place of the affection that never came, so that even when the eating is forcibly stopped the true starvation remains, and grief and depression rise where the food had been. The appetite was never really for food. It traces to early emotional abandonment. What it asks for is to bring the actual hunger, for love, to a place that can begin to meet it.
What does "Carried: Gastric By-Pass (Stapling off part of the stomach to lower food intake)" sound like when it shows up?
I was starving for love, so I fed the hole with food, and even taking the food away didn't touch the real hunger.
What is the archetypal form of "Carried: Gastric By-Pass (Stapling off part of the stomach to lower food intake)"?
The prodigal son, who having spent everything found himself starving among the pigs, longing to be filled with anything and remembering, at last, a house where he was loved. The form implies a task: to turn back toward the love one is actually starving for.
This is a pattern. Not a verdict.
It appears in many lives.