Pushed away: Baloney; Bologna
“There was a story about our family, and correcting it was never an option.”
It keeps its perception blurred as a matter of long practice, and the blur extends into love, so people are kept slightly out of focus too and nobody gets looked at closely enough to be either trusted or known. The household ran an official version enforced by somebody with the power to punish disagreement, which made not-seeing the sensible position and turned accuracy into a risk rather than a virtue. What it asks for is one accurate sentence said out loud in a room where nothing bad happens afterwards.
It echoes the court in front of Zhao Gao's deer, where each official in turn was invited to look at the animal and say what it was, and learned quickly which answer was survivable. The form implies a task: to say deer somewhere it is safe to say it.
- Essence
- Untrusted Judgment
- Rule
- Being right about what I saw was the dangerous thing to be.
- Substance / Activity
- Baloney; bologna
- Archetype
- Zhao Gao
- Emotional theme
- Perception surrendered to an enforced official version
- Behavioural pattern
- Systematic awareness-avoidance; deflection of intimacy and love
- Family dynamic
- Authority-abusing, reality-deflecting household that punished accurate seeing
- Core wound
- Being right about what I saw was the dangerous thing to be.
- Exit
- Saying one accurate sentence out loud where nothing follows from it.
What is the "Pushed away: Baloney; Bologna" pattern?
It keeps its perception blurred as a matter of long practice, and the blur extends into love, so people are kept slightly out of focus too and nobody gets looked at closely enough to be either trusted or known. The household ran an official version enforced by somebody with the power to punish disagreement, which made not-seeing the sensible position and turned accuracy into a risk rather than a virtue. What it asks for is one accurate sentence said out loud in a room where nothing bad happens afterwards.
What does "Pushed away: Baloney; Bologna" sound like when it shows up?
There was a story about our family, and correcting it was never an option.
What is the archetypal form of "Pushed away: Baloney; Bologna"?
It echoes the court in front of Zhao Gao's deer, where each official in turn was invited to look at the animal and say what it was, and learned quickly which answer was survivable. The form implies a task: to say deer somewhere it is safe to say it.
This is a pattern. Not a verdict.
It appears in many lives.
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