Pushed away: Dandelions
“Half of what I think in my own voice turns out to be hers.”
It resists the female register wherever it meets it, in other people and in itself, and the resistance has an exhausted quality because the thing being pushed against is not outside. A mother who moved in rather than raised, feeding on the child's attention and installing her own commentary where the child's should have been, leaves a person whose inner voice is partly somebody else's, and the body tends to carry what the argument cannot resolve. What it asks for is to separate one opinion that is genuinely its own from one that was issued.
It echoes the dybbuk stories, in which a voice not belonging to the person speaks out of their mouth and has to be addressed by name before it will consent to leave. The form implies a task: to name it, and to notice how much quieter the room is afterwards.
- Essence
- Untrusted Judgment
- Rule
- She moved into my head and I have been arguing with the furniture ever since.
- Substance / Activity
- Dandelions
- Archetype
- The Dybbuk
- Emotional theme
- A mother installed inside the person's own voice
- Behavioural pattern
- Rejection of the feminine in others and in oneself; the conflict carried in the body
- Family dynamic
- Parasitic mothering that fed on the child and occupied their inner life
- Core wound
- She moved into my head and I have been arguing with the furniture ever since.
- Exit
- Separating one opinion that is genuinely one's own from one that was issued.
What is the "Pushed away: Dandelions" pattern?
It resists the female register wherever it meets it, in other people and in itself, and the resistance has an exhausted quality because the thing being pushed against is not outside. A mother who moved in rather than raised, feeding on the child's attention and installing her own commentary where the child's should have been, leaves a person whose inner voice is partly somebody else's, and the body tends to carry what the argument cannot resolve. What it asks for is to separate one opinion that is genuinely its own from one that was issued.
What does "Pushed away: Dandelions" sound like when it shows up?
Half of what I think in my own voice turns out to be hers.
What is the archetypal form of "Pushed away: Dandelions"?
It echoes the dybbuk stories, in which a voice not belonging to the person speaks out of their mouth and has to be addressed by name before it will consent to leave. The form implies a task: to name it, and to notice how much quieter the room is afterwards.
This is a pattern. Not a verdict.
It appears in many lives.
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