Pushed away: Endives
“I'll deal with all of it later. Later has worked out fine so far.”
It stays young by not looking: bills, consequences and the state of its own competence go into a pile that never gets opened, while money and time leave at a rate nobody is tracking. An indulgent parent who did everything and undercut the child's capability in the doing made the pile possible, and being handled is difficult to give up once it has been the arrangement. What it asks for is to open one envelope, all the way, this week.
It echoes Urashima Taro, who spent what felt like three days in the palace beneath the sea and came back to a shore where three hundred years had passed, carrying a box he had been told not to open. The form implies a task: to count the time while it is still being spent.
- Essence
- The Perennial Child
- Rule
- Everything was done for me, so I never found out what I could do.
- Substance / Activity
- Endives
- Archetype
- Urashima Taro
- Emotional theme
- Perpetual childhood, purchased by not looking
- Behavioural pattern
- Awareness-avoidance; spendthrift self-sabotage; competence left undeveloped
- Family dynamic
- Over-indulgent parenting, largely maternal, that undercut the child's own competence
- Core wound
- Everything was done for me, so I never found out what I could do.
- Exit
- Opening one envelope all the way, this week.
What is the "Pushed away: Endives" pattern?
It stays young by not looking: bills, consequences and the state of its own competence go into a pile that never gets opened, while money and time leave at a rate nobody is tracking. An indulgent parent who did everything and undercut the child's capability in the doing made the pile possible, and being handled is difficult to give up once it has been the arrangement. What it asks for is to open one envelope, all the way, this week.
What does "Pushed away: Endives" sound like when it shows up?
I'll deal with all of it later. Later has worked out fine so far.
What is the archetypal form of "Pushed away: Endives"?
It echoes Urashima Taro, who spent what felt like three days in the palace beneath the sea and came back to a shore where three hundred years had passed, carrying a box he had been told not to open. The form implies a task: to count the time while it is still being spent.
This is a pattern. Not a verdict.
It appears in many lives.
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