Pushed away: Geraniums
“Somebody always sorts it out. That's just how it's gone so far.”
It receives more than it puts in, and does so without much sense of an imbalance, since taking has been the working relationship with the world for as long as there has been a world to relate to. A mother who intervened in everything and kept the strings in her own hands made independence unnecessary and then unavailable, so the capacity to contribute was never built and the habit of being provided for was. What it asks for is one obligation taken on and discharged without anybody stepping in.
It echoes Aladdin at the beginning of it, an idle son in his mother's house who came into a lamp and had everything built for him overnight by somebody else's hands. The form implies a task: to build one thing without rubbing anything.
- Essence
- The Perennial Child
- Rule
- Everything was arranged for me, so I never learned that it takes arranging.
- Substance / Activity
- Geraniums
- Archetype
- Aladdin
- Emotional theme
- Provision taken as the natural order
- Behavioural pattern
- Irresponsible taking; underdeveloped capacity to contribute; independence never established
- Family dynamic
- Intrusively intervening and possessive maternal parenting that kept the strings in her hands
- Core wound
- Everything was arranged for me, so I never learned that it takes arranging.
- Exit
- Taking on one obligation and discharging it without anybody stepping in.
What is the "Pushed away: Geraniums" pattern?
It receives more than it puts in, and does so without much sense of an imbalance, since taking has been the working relationship with the world for as long as there has been a world to relate to. A mother who intervened in everything and kept the strings in her own hands made independence unnecessary and then unavailable, so the capacity to contribute was never built and the habit of being provided for was. What it asks for is one obligation taken on and discharged without anybody stepping in.
What does "Pushed away: Geraniums" sound like when it shows up?
Somebody always sorts it out. That's just how it's gone so far.
What is the archetypal form of "Pushed away: Geraniums"?
It echoes Aladdin at the beginning of it, an idle son in his mother's house who came into a lamp and had everything built for him overnight by somebody else's hands. The form implies a task: to build one thing without rubbing anything.
This is a pattern. Not a verdict.
It appears in many lives.
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