Pushed away: Ivy
“People are disappointing at a rate that stopped surprising me years ago.”
It arranges a life with very few people in it, and the organising feeling is not fear but distaste, a low disgust that finds most company faintly soiling and most motives cheap. Parenting that could not be trusted at any point supplied the evidence early, and disgust holds up better than hurt, since it puts the problem out there rather than in here. What it asks for is one person kept close long enough to become specific rather than representative.
It echoes Timon, who kept an open house until he learned what his guests were, and went out to live in a cave with a spade and a grudge against the species. The form implies a task: to hold the grudge against the specific guests.
- Essence
- Betrayed Order
- Rule
- Nobody there was what they appeared to be, so I stopped granting anyone the benefit.
- Substance / Activity
- Ivy
- Archetype
- Timon
- Emotional theme
- Distaste substituted for injury
- Behavioural pattern
- Isolation-seeking; distrust and disgust toward people generally
- Family dynamic
- Intensely untrustworthy parenting that supplied the evidence early
- Core wound
- Nobody there was what they appeared to be, so I stopped granting anyone the benefit.
- Exit
- Keeping one person close until they become specific rather than representative.
What is the "Pushed away: Ivy" pattern?
It arranges a life with very few people in it, and the organising feeling is not fear but distaste, a low disgust that finds most company faintly soiling and most motives cheap. Parenting that could not be trusted at any point supplied the evidence early, and disgust holds up better than hurt, since it puts the problem out there rather than in here. What it asks for is one person kept close long enough to become specific rather than representative.
What does "Pushed away: Ivy" sound like when it shows up?
People are disappointing at a rate that stopped surprising me years ago.
What is the archetypal form of "Pushed away: Ivy"?
It echoes Timon, who kept an open house until he learned what his guests were, and went out to live in a cave with a spade and a grudge against the species. The form implies a task: to hold the grudge against the specific guests.
This is a pattern. Not a verdict.
It appears in many lives.
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