Pushed away: Kidney Beans
“Whatever this is that runs in my family, it stops with me.”
It declines to extend the line in any direction, keeping desire, partnership and the whole question of children at a distance, and the refusal reaches into work as well, since anything that grows past a certain point starts to look like continuation. The household was engulfing and disordered enough to be frightening, and the conclusion drawn early was that this material should not be passed on, which is a decision made about oneself as much as about any future person. What it asks for is to separate what deserves to end from what is only being punished for its address.
It echoes Bhishma, who swore off marriage and children to settle a difficulty that was not his, and then stayed in that house for the rest of a very long life, holding to a vow nobody had asked him to keep. The form implies a task: to ask who the vow was actually made for.
- Essence
- Wrong at the Root
- Rule
- What runs in that house should not be handed on, and I'm what it would be handed through.
- Substance / Activity
- Kidney beans
- Archetype
- Bhishma
- Emotional theme
- A line refused in order to end an inheritance
- Behavioural pattern
- Sexuality-avoidance and fertility-prevention; success-avoidance; fixation on the family of origin
- Family dynamic
- Engulfing, disordered and undermining family that frightened the child
- Core wound
- What runs in that house should not be handed on, and I'm what it would be handed through.
- Exit
- Separating what deserves to end from what is only being punished for its address.
What is the "Pushed away: Kidney Beans" pattern?
It declines to extend the line in any direction, keeping desire, partnership and the whole question of children at a distance, and the refusal reaches into work as well, since anything that grows past a certain point starts to look like continuation. The household was engulfing and disordered enough to be frightening, and the conclusion drawn early was that this material should not be passed on, which is a decision made about oneself as much as about any future person. What it asks for is to separate what deserves to end from what is only being punished for its address.
What does "Pushed away: Kidney Beans" sound like when it shows up?
Whatever this is that runs in my family, it stops with me.
What is the archetypal form of "Pushed away: Kidney Beans"?
It echoes Bhishma, who swore off marriage and children to settle a difficulty that was not his, and then stayed in that house for the rest of a very long life, holding to a vow nobody had asked him to keep. The form implies a task: to ask who the vow was actually made for.
This is a pattern. Not a verdict.
It appears in many lives.