Pushed away: Noodles
“What I want tends to become what's happening.”
It organises its surroundings around its own appetite, and does so without much awareness that this is occurring, since the arrangement has held since childhood and has never met sustained resistance. A mother who over-supplied, or who was absorbed in her own convenience and bought quiet with indulgence, established the appetite as the household's operating principle, and an appetite that has always governed does not experience itself as governing. What it asks for is one occasion where somebody else's preference sets the terms and the disappointment is simply felt.
It echoes Ilsebill, whose husband went back to the water for her again and again, and who wanted the cottage, then the castle, then the throne, and then to command the sun and moon. The form implies a task: to stop before the next trip to the shore.
- Essence
- The Compelled
- Rule
- What I wanted was always what happened, so I never learned it was a request.
- Substance / Activity
- Noodles
- Archetype
- Ilsebill
- Emotional theme
- Appetite installed as the household's governing principle
- Behavioural pattern
- Self-immersion; desire allowed to organise the surroundings; perpetual childhood
- Family dynamic
- Over-indulgent or convenience-driven mothering that bought quiet with supply
- Core wound
- What I wanted was always what happened, so I never learned it was a request.
- Exit
- Letting somebody else's preference set the terms once, and simply feeling the disappointment.
What is the "Pushed away: Noodles" pattern?
It organises its surroundings around its own appetite, and does so without much awareness that this is occurring, since the arrangement has held since childhood and has never met sustained resistance. A mother who over-supplied, or who was absorbed in her own convenience and bought quiet with indulgence, established the appetite as the household's operating principle, and an appetite that has always governed does not experience itself as governing. What it asks for is one occasion where somebody else's preference sets the terms and the disappointment is simply felt.
What does "Pushed away: Noodles" sound like when it shows up?
What I want tends to become what's happening.
What is the archetypal form of "Pushed away: Noodles"?
It echoes Ilsebill, whose husband went back to the water for her again and again, and who wanted the cottage, then the castle, then the throne, and then to command the sun and moon. The form implies a task: to stop before the next trip to the shore.
This is a pattern. Not a verdict.
It appears in many lives.
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