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Pushed away: Olives (Green) (I)

Grown-up things are for people who were taught how, and I wasn't.

It stays boyish and deferential, avoiding strength, authority and the exercise of its own force, and hands responsibility to anybody who looks more equipped to hold it. The household undermined its capacity to cope at every turn, so adulthood registers as a set of tools that were never issued rather than as a set of skills that could be picked up late. What it asks for is one adult task carried out badly and all the way through.

The Archetypal Form

It echoes Perceval, raised in the forest by a mother who kept all knowledge of arms and knighthood away from him for his own protection, so that he came out into the world knowing nothing and asking nobody. The form implies a task: to ask the question he was never taught to ask.

The Algorithm
Essence
The Perennial Child
Rule
Nobody there ever showed me how, so I assumed I couldn't.
Classification
Substance / Activity
Olives, green
Archetype
Perceval
Emotional theme
Adulthood experienced as equipment never issued
Behavioural pattern
Avoidance of strength, power and responsibility; perpetual boyishness
Family dynamic
Household that undermined the child's ability to cope with anything
Core wound
Nobody there ever showed me how, so I assumed I couldn't.
Exit
Carrying out one adult task badly and all the way through.
Frequently asked
What is the "Pushed away: Olives (Green) (I)" pattern?

It stays boyish and deferential, avoiding strength, authority and the exercise of its own force, and hands responsibility to anybody who looks more equipped to hold it. The household undermined its capacity to cope at every turn, so adulthood registers as a set of tools that were never issued rather than as a set of skills that could be picked up late. What it asks for is one adult task carried out badly and all the way through.

What does "Pushed away: Olives (Green) (I)" sound like when it shows up?

Grown-up things are for people who were taught how, and I wasn't.

What is the archetypal form of "Pushed away: Olives (Green) (I)"?

It echoes Perceval, raised in the forest by a mother who kept all knowledge of arms and knighthood away from him for his own protection, so that he came out into the world knowing nothing and asking nobody. The form implies a task: to ask the question he was never taught to ask.

This is a pattern. Not a verdict.
It appears in many lives.

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