Reached for: Gargoyles
“There's something in me unfit to be around people, so I keep to the high, hidden places.”
It runs as a settled self-shame, a conviction of being somehow unfit for human company and a deep self-rejection, laid down by an accusatory, denigrating family that made the person the fault. The hiding is protective and it confirms the verdict with every retreat. What it asks for is one person who sees the whole of the person and does not recoil.
Quasimodo, who kept to the heights among the gargoyles because he had been taught the world could not bear the sight of him, tender and human behind the face they feared. The form implies a task: to come down among people and be met as more than the face.
- Essence
- Wrong at the Root
- Rule
- There's something in me unfit for people, so I keep out of sight.
- Substance / Activity
- Self-shame, the hidden and unfit self
- Archetype
- Quasimodo
- Emotional theme
- A conviction of being unfit for human company
- Behavioural pattern
- Self-shame and self-rejection; keeping hidden
- Family dynamic
- An accusatory, denigrating and rejecting severely dysfunctional family
- Core wound
- There's something in me unfit for people, so I keep out of sight.
- Exit
- One person who sees the whole of the person and does not recoil.
What is the "Reached for: Gargoyles" pattern?
It runs as a settled self-shame, a conviction of being somehow unfit for human company and a deep self-rejection, laid down by an accusatory, denigrating family that made the person the fault. The hiding is protective and it confirms the verdict with every retreat. What it asks for is one person who sees the whole of the person and does not recoil.
What does "Reached for: Gargoyles" sound like when it shows up?
There's something in me unfit to be around people, so I keep to the high, hidden places.
What is the archetypal form of "Reached for: Gargoyles"?
Quasimodo, who kept to the heights among the gargoyles because he had been taught the world could not bear the sight of him, tender and human behind the face they feared. The form implies a task: to come down among people and be met as more than the face.
This is a pattern. Not a verdict.
It appears in many lives.