Pushed away: Dairy (II)
“Nobody's coming, and I've never really thought they should.”
It expects nothing to be provided, by people or by the wider arrangement, and it has gone one step past expecting nothing into agreeing with the arrangement, on the grounds that a person like this was never going to be worth sustaining. Early abandonment by a mother who was absent or rejecting installed both halves at once, the not-being-given and the endorsement of it, which is why the position carries the flavour of maturity rather than of injury. What it asks for is to let one thing be provided by somebody else, and to leave the endorsement unspoken while it happens.
It echoes Baridegi, the seventh daughter thrown out at birth for being another girl, who came back of her own accord to fetch the water that would save the parents who had discarded her, and asked for nothing in return. The form implies a task: to notice that she was owed something, and that nobody ever said so.
- Essence
- The Unallotted
- Rule
- Nothing was going to be given to me, and I decided that was correct.
- Substance / Activity
- Dairy
- Archetype
- Baridegi
- Emotional theme
- Abandonment agreed with rather than protested
- Behavioural pattern
- Life-rejection; refusal to expect provision from people or from the world
- Family dynamic
- Early abandonment by a neglectful or rejecting mother
- Core wound
- Nothing was going to be given to me, and I decided that was correct.
- Exit
- Letting one thing be provided, and leaving the verdict unspoken while it happens.
What is the "Pushed away: Dairy (II)" pattern?
It expects nothing to be provided, by people or by the wider arrangement, and it has gone one step past expecting nothing into agreeing with the arrangement, on the grounds that a person like this was never going to be worth sustaining. Early abandonment by a mother who was absent or rejecting installed both halves at once, the not-being-given and the endorsement of it, which is why the position carries the flavour of maturity rather than of injury. What it asks for is to let one thing be provided by somebody else, and to leave the endorsement unspoken while it happens.
What does "Pushed away: Dairy (II)" sound like when it shows up?
Nobody's coming, and I've never really thought they should.
What is the archetypal form of "Pushed away: Dairy (II)"?
It echoes Baridegi, the seventh daughter thrown out at birth for being another girl, who came back of her own accord to fetch the water that would save the parents who had discarded her, and asked for nothing in return. The form implies a task: to notice that she was owed something, and that nobody ever said so.
This is a pattern. Not a verdict.
It appears in many lives.
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