Pushed away: Red Peppers
“There was always something that needed doing, and there always will be, and that's been my whole answer to being loved.”
It answers every approach with work, meeting affection, desire and tenderness with the observation that there are things to be got on with, so the duty steadily crowds out the register in which somebody could be received. Consistent maternal deprivation put it into an adult role while it was still a child, and a person who became necessary before they were wanted has no working experience of being loved for anything other than the labour. What it asks for is one hour in which the work is left undone and the affection is what is attended to instead.
It echoes Antigone, who gave the whole of herself to an obligation toward the dead and said plainly, on the way, that there would now be no wedding and no household of her own. The form implies a task: to count what the obligation is being paid for with.
- Essence
- Earned Keeping
- Rule
- I became necessary long before anybody wanted me, and I never learned the difference.
- Substance / Activity
- Red peppers
- Archetype
- Antigone
- Emotional theme
- Duty crowding out the register in which one could be received
- Behavioural pattern
- Hard-working over-responsibility; self-denial; avoidance of joy, love and the tender register
- Family dynamic
- Consistent maternal deprivation, with the child placed in a parental role in a dysfunctional family
- Core wound
- I became necessary long before anybody wanted me, and I never learned the difference.
- Exit
- Leaving the work undone for one hour and attending to the affection instead.
What is the "Pushed away: Red Peppers" pattern?
It answers every approach with work, meeting affection, desire and tenderness with the observation that there are things to be got on with, so the duty steadily crowds out the register in which somebody could be received. Consistent maternal deprivation put it into an adult role while it was still a child, and a person who became necessary before they were wanted has no working experience of being loved for anything other than the labour. What it asks for is one hour in which the work is left undone and the affection is what is attended to instead.
What does "Pushed away: Red Peppers" sound like when it shows up?
There was always something that needed doing, and there always will be, and that's been my whole answer to being loved.
What is the archetypal form of "Pushed away: Red Peppers"?
It echoes Antigone, who gave the whole of herself to an obligation toward the dead and said plainly, on the way, that there would now be no wedding and no household of her own. The form implies a task: to count what the obligation is being paid for with.
This is a pattern. Not a verdict.
It appears in many lives.
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