Pushed away: Tomatoes; Tomato Juice (I)
“There's a right way to do everything and I'd rather do it than watch it done badly.”
It works to a standard that has no upper limit, taking on more than its share and executing all of it exactly, and the exactness is not pride but insurance, because in the house where this was learned an error had consequences that landed on the child. Deprivation of ordinary mothering put it in an adult role early, and a child doing an adult's job cannot afford the margin that adults allow themselves. What it asks for is one task completed to a standard somebody else set, and left there.
It echoes Yu the Great, thirteen years channelling the flood, who passed his own front door three times while the work was going on and did not go in. The form implies a task: to go in the third time.
- Essence
- The Sentinel
- Rule
- A mistake of mine there was never just a mistake.
- Substance / Activity
- Tomatoes; tomato juice
- Archetype
- Yu the Great
- Emotional theme
- Exactness as insurance against consequences that once landed on a child
- Behavioural pattern
- Hyper-conscientiousness; over-responsibility; self-denial; avoidance of joy and of the soft register
- Family dynamic
- Consistent maternal deprivation, with the child placed in the parental role early
- Core wound
- A mistake of mine there was never just a mistake.
- Exit
- Completing one task to a standard somebody else set, and leaving it there.
What is the "Pushed away: Tomatoes; Tomato Juice (I)" pattern?
It works to a standard that has no upper limit, taking on more than its share and executing all of it exactly, and the exactness is not pride but insurance, because in the house where this was learned an error had consequences that landed on the child. Deprivation of ordinary mothering put it in an adult role early, and a child doing an adult's job cannot afford the margin that adults allow themselves. What it asks for is one task completed to a standard somebody else set, and left there.
What does "Pushed away: Tomatoes; Tomato Juice (I)" sound like when it shows up?
There's a right way to do everything and I'd rather do it than watch it done badly.
What is the archetypal form of "Pushed away: Tomatoes; Tomato Juice (I)"?
It echoes Yu the Great, thirteen years channelling the flood, who passed his own front door three times while the work was going on and did not go in. The form implies a task: to go in the third time.
This is a pattern. Not a verdict.
It appears in many lives.
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