Pushed away: Tomatoes; Tomato Juice (II)
“I'd like to be in the room where those people are. What happens after that, I haven't thought about.”
It pursues position rather than possession, working steadily toward the rooms, titles and associations that constitute arrival, and it keeps intimacy at a distance because a person admitted that close would meet the ordinary someone underneath the position. A status-driven, socially climbing household with a mother who was not available taught it that being somebody is the currency and being known is a liability. What it asks for is one person allowed to meet the version that has no title attached.
It echoes Julien Sorel, who studied the manners of every house he entered and used every affection in it as a rung, and who could not be loved as himself because he had never presented that version to anyone. The form implies a task: to be met once without the ascent attached.
- Essence
- Earned Worth
- Rule
- Nobody there wanted me, so I set about becoming somebody worth wanting.
- Substance / Activity
- Tomatoes; tomato juice
- Archetype
- Julien Sorel
- Emotional theme
- Position acquired in place of being known
- Behavioural pattern
- Status-hunger and accumulation; avoidance of sexual and intimate exposure
- Family dynamic
- Status-conscious, socially climbing household with an unavailable mother
- Core wound
- Nobody there wanted me, so I set about becoming somebody worth wanting.
- Exit
- Letting one person meet the version with no title attached.
What is the "Pushed away: Tomatoes; Tomato Juice (II)" pattern?
It pursues position rather than possession, working steadily toward the rooms, titles and associations that constitute arrival, and it keeps intimacy at a distance because a person admitted that close would meet the ordinary someone underneath the position. A status-driven, socially climbing household with a mother who was not available taught it that being somebody is the currency and being known is a liability. What it asks for is one person allowed to meet the version that has no title attached.
What does "Pushed away: Tomatoes; Tomato Juice (II)" sound like when it shows up?
I'd like to be in the room where those people are. What happens after that, I haven't thought about.
What is the archetypal form of "Pushed away: Tomatoes; Tomato Juice (II)"?
It echoes Julien Sorel, who studied the manners of every house he entered and used every affection in it as a rung, and who could not be loved as himself because he had never presented that version to anyone. The form implies a task: to be met once without the ascent attached.
This is a pattern. Not a verdict.
It appears in many lives.
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