Pushed away: Hair (I)

It governs the schedule, the decisions and other people's plans, admitting only what can be reasoned about, and treats feeling as an unfinished calculation and reverence and tenderness as unserious. A suspicious patriarchal household taught it that anything not held tightly ends up being used against its owner, so control became the shape that safety takes. What it asks for is one area handed to somebody else entirely, and left with them.

Nothing happens in my house that I haven't approved first.

It echoes Nebuchadnezzar, who standardised the worship, required the whole plain to bow to a figure of his own design, and later spent his season in the field eating grass. The form implies a task: to notice what the control is holding off, before it arrives by another route.