Pushed away: Saccharine
“I'm warm with everyone, which is exactly how I keep everyone at the same distance.”
It offers a convincing pleasantness in place of involvement, so contact stays frequent, agreeable and never load-bearing. Growing up among people whose word could not be relied on made emotional investment look like a poor wager, and a sweet manner turned out to be the most efficient way of declining without giving offence. What it asks for is one exchange conducted without charm, with something true at stake in it.
It echoes Yuki-onna, the snow woman of the Japanese tales, who keeps a warm house and a loving manner and is made of cold throughout, and who vanishes the moment she is named. The form implies a task: to remain in the room after the naming.
What is the "Pushed away: Saccharine" pattern?
It offers a convincing pleasantness in place of involvement, so contact stays frequent, agreeable and never load-bearing. Growing up among people whose word could not be relied on made emotional investment look like a poor wager, and a sweet manner turned out to be the most efficient way of declining without giving offence. What it asks for is one exchange conducted without charm, with something true at stake in it.
What does "Pushed away: Saccharine" sound like when it shows up?
I'm warm with everyone, which is exactly how I keep everyone at the same distance.
What is the archetypal form of "Pushed away: Saccharine"?
It echoes Yuki-onna, the snow woman of the Japanese tales, who keeps a warm house and a loving manner and is made of cold throughout, and who vanishes the moment she is named. The form implies a task: to remain in the room after the naming.
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